Many people loved the interview with Jen Savage, wife of author J. (Jeff) Scott Savage. The best feedback I received from that post was this...people wanted to hear from the male perspective.
What is it not like? Josi has been writing for most of our marriage so it has just become a part of our lives. It’s been a lot of fun to watch Josi develop as a person and an author. I’ve enjoyed watching her develop her talents. I have a permanent image of Josi sitting at the table writing, with an apple at the side with a bite taken out of it (she likes her Mac). It’s inspiring to see her work through her challenges and to grow and develop. I was on an airplane a few months ago and saw a woman reading one of Josi’s book—it was one of my favorite experiences to introduce myself and see her face.
Being supportive of the time she needs to focus on her writing and holding down the fort when she’s writing, or on book tours, or at book groups, or at book signings or at book conferences. She’s also thanked me for keeping her grounded when she gets too obsessive. When I tell her that things are out of order, that the computer is getting more of her than us, she gets mad, but then realizes I’m usually right.
I’ve tried to boost her confidence when things are hard, like she does for me. I’ve had success in my businesses and I know she’s a part of that. I could not have done what I have done without her. She often says the same things about my support of her writing. We make a good team.
The constantness (that might not be a real word) of always having something she’s working on. There are always deadlines, events, conferences and pressures. As Josi’s career has become more successful there are more things required of her. It’s hard for her to keep up with and it’s hard for us, as a family, to make room for it. Our family makes a lot of sacrifices. Sometimes they aren’t hard to do, other times they take a lot out of us.
Help them to strike a balance between supporting them and their dreams but also not going overboard so that their family suffers for it. Help them maintain their priorities and see that they should be getting fulfillment from their writing and should write ultimately for themselves whether they published a hundred books or never publish a single one.
Winning the Whitney award and seeing the lady reading the book on the plane. Those are moments that remind me how hard she’s worked and how much people have enjoyed her books. I love hearing people tell me they loved something she wrote. It’s nice that she can pay for the damage to my cars now instead of me having to pay for it now (she’s got a problem with backing into cars in the driveway).
I hope some day she buys me a car, or even just her own car. I hope she’ll reach her potential and a point where she’s happy and content with where her career has gone and that she’s maximized her talents and abilities to the best she could. Maybe she’s there now, or maybe there is more to come. But more than anything I want her to be happy with what she’s done and enjoy all the moments.
What advice do you have for a spouse? He said “Run away! Tell them you’ll pay them or buy them a car or anything if they’ll just not write a single word.” He’s such a card. Once he got through the humor portion we could get the real answers."
Here's the rules:
1--Between now and February 8th post an announcement about the release of Devil's Food Cake, book three in the Sadie Hoffmiller Culinary Mystery Series.
2--Be sure it includes a link to my website, where they can read the first chapter, AND a link to Deseret Books website in case they want to buy the book (www.josiskilpack.com and http://deseretbook.com/item/5033744/Devil_s_Food_Cake )
3--Come back here and leave a comment telling me where it's posted.
4--Cross your fingers!
EXTRA ENTRY: If you HAVE read Devil's Food Cake, leave a review on Deseretbook.com, goodreads, library thing, shelfari, or Amazon.com--get an entry for EVERY review posted (just copy and paste the same one if you want) Let me know where you posted them. If you don't want a copy of Devil's Food Cake (since you might already have one), you can choose any of my other titles.
On February 8th I will draw two random names from the list using www.random.org and will announce the lucky winners. Thanks for playing, you guys, and for spreading the word. MUCH appreciated.